Learning to live

This is a translation of the original French text.

Four years of judicial proceedings... It’s a long time! Yes, but putting an “end” to 25 years of fear, shame, disgust, mistrust, feelings of injustice and negative repercussions of all kinds in my life, is worth the effort! It has been very hard, I won’t deny it, but I’m satisfied at having done it! I’m proud that I held on till the end. Luckily, I wasn’t alone. Counsellors from the CALACS and the CAVAC were there with me to accompany me, and the investigator in charge of my file was very nice and respectful.

When I started these proceedings, four years ago, I knew it would be long and difficult. It has been even longer and more difficult than what I had expected! Not encouraging, would you say? I would answer: let’s look at the positive side of things! And positive things did happen, indeed, from the moment I walked out of the Courthouse, feeling that I had recovered my freedom, my confidence, my life!

Today, I feel free. My heart is lighter. I really feel that I have turned an important page of my life, and I am deeply relieved of it. I cannot forget, of course. But I learn to live, day after day, with what I experienced during childhood. And when, for the glimpse of a moment, I remember that right now my aggressor is behind bars, and that he was declared guilty in the eyes of society, my relief is even greater!

Ok, he didn’t receive the sentence that I would have given him (prison for life!), but I trust God that He’ll take care of judging him, for eternity.

Today, I realise that the judicial proceedings I instituted against my aggressor have made me a stronger woman, who can walk with her head held up high and look forward... to the future. That’s it!

So, four years, to enable me to blossom for the rest of my life, I say: YES! I encourage each woman victim of sexual assault to denounce and file charges against her aggressor. Don’t be a victim anymore and get your dignity back, your confidence, your life!

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