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Media Coverage - National Victims of Crime Awareness Week 2009

Regina Leader Post, Page A4 April 29, 2009

Conference to offer support to victims of crime

Kerry Benjoe, The Leader-Post

Victims of crime will have an opportunity to come together and support one another at the Creating Strength and Making Change Through Supporting, Connecting, Evolving conference.

The one-day conference is being organized by the Qu'Appelle Haven Safe Shelter. It is to be held at the Ramada Inn in Regina on Friday.

Lois Isnana, one of the conference organizers, said she felt that such a conference is needed in Saskatchewan.

"My life, not only through work, but my personal life has been affected by crime," explained Isnana. "This conference is held in recognition of National Victims of Crime Awareness Week."

Isnana said response to the conference has been overwhelming; At last count 240 participants were registered to attend. The organizers had planned for 200, which she believes shows the need out there.

"We're not just thinking about homicide but other serious crimes," she explained.

She attended a similar conference in Edmonton last year and thought that such an event was needed in Saskatchewan.

"I just felt that there are a lot of families that are affected by violent crime within our communities. I wanted to make a connection with those families," explained Isnana.

She said there are three main speakers, one of which is from Family Service Regina, who will speak about stalking and other criminal acts. An RCMP officer is also scheduled to speak about the police's role in investigation.

The keynote speaker is Wilma L. Derkson, a Winnipeg-based author, who is to share her personal story of grief and loss. Derkson's daughter was murdered in 1984.

"She's going to talk about the 15 elements of serious crime. It's how the individual deals with the aftermath of serious crime either to themselves and or family members," said Isnana.

She hopes the conference will become an annual event.

"Personally, what I am hoping is that we will have further support for victims of violence and that we can become more organized," said Isnana. "I do know in other places they have support groups."

She believes victims of crime need support particularly during the court process.

"It's one thing to grieve, but the justice system is a whole other aspect of an individuals grief. We have to try to support one another through this time," said Isnana.

The province has declared April 26 to May 2 to be Victims of Crime Awareness Week.

More information about National Crime Awareness Week, services for victims or volunteer opportunities can be found by calling the Ministry of Justice Victims Services at 787-3500, or by visiting the government website (www.justice.gov.sk.ca/victimsservices).


Edmonton Sun, Page 12 April 29, 2009

Justice program linked killer with victim's family

Jasmine Franklin, Special to Sun Media

Bruce Stanley still grapples with the horrific killing of his dad, who was driving a school bus when he was fatally struck by a boulder teens threw off a Whitemud Drive overpass.

But instead of seeking vengence, Bruce has helped give one of his dad's two convicted killers a second chance through the Edmonton Restorative Justice Network (ERJN).

Robert Stanley, 75, was killed June 1, 2002, when the boulder slammed through his bus window and struck him fatally in the chest.

Despite a pact to never talk about the incident again, one of the teens came forward after another individual had been wrongfully accused.

The two teens - one of whom pleaded guilty and went through the ERJN program - were sentenced for manslaughter to six months' house arrest and 18 months' probation.

"(The program) helped me to know what I look for in an individual - I (used to) scrutinize and penalize but that's not me anymore," said Bruce, speaking at an ERJN conference yesterday at the MacEwan college downtown campus.

The event was held in conjunction with National Victims of Crime Awareness Week. The ERJN program allows victims and criminals to speak face-to-face or over the phone.

"It gives victims a voice in the system," ERJN member Harvey Voogd said.

"Victims have a chance to tell the criminals directly the impact of the offence and can ask questions of the offender."

Bruce Stanley said that through the program, about 26 people - including his family and the killer - met for seven hours to talk about his dad's death.

"We each had a chance to say what we wanted out of this," Bruce said.

"(The killer) didn't have a criminal record and he was an honour student, so we felt jail wouldn't be the right thing for him."

The ERJN was a process that allowed the Stanley family some kind of closure.

"It wasn't complete closure," said Bruce.

"But it helps us understand what took place and why."


Vancouver Province, Page 17 April 26, 2009

Apology helps to heal one terrible moment of past

Reformed killer, victim's daughter share their stories

Brian Lewis, The Province

Mission resident Glen Flett, 58, says he doesn't think Margot Van Sluytman will ever truly forgive him. But at least she's accepted his apology and understands the kind of person he is today.

After all, Flett was very different that day in 1978 when he shot and killed Van Sluytman's father Theodore during a robbery of the Toronto store where he worked.

As Flett recalls, he was fleeing when the victim grabbed his arm and tried to stop him. "Give it up, son," were Theodore Van Sluytman's last words.

Margot, now a highly regarded Calgary-based poet, was then a tender 16-year-old. The bullets shattered her life, and that of her mother, two sisters and brother. Flett was handed a life sentence for second-degree murder following what at the time was the longest murder trial in Canadian history.

By his own admission, Flett was one bad dude. He'd been in trouble since he was an 11-year-old in his native Oak Bay, B.C.

Fast-forward to this Tuesday in Mission, where Flett and Van Sluytman will sit side-by-side and share their stories at a special public forum for National Victims of Crime Awareness Week (Clarke Theatre, 33700 Prentis Ave., 7.30 p.m., free admission).

One of the event's sponsors is the Long-term Inmates Now in the Community (LINC) group, co-founded by Flett and his wife to help recently released prisoners adjust.

How these two were drawn together from opposite ends of a tragedy is a remarkable story.

Flett began his sentence in Ontario's infamous Kingston Penitentiary ("Alcatraz North") but was subsequently transferred to B.C.

It was at Kent Maximum Security Prison near Agassiz in 1982 that Flett let go of his bad ways. "I became a Christian, found a meaningful life even in prison and realized I must help others," he told me.

The change also helped Flett to meet and marry the love of his life, Sherry, while he was still in prison, where he also began work on the bachelor's degree in anthropology and sociology from Simon Fraser University that he now holds.

However, Flett's resurrection came freshly wrapped in strong guilt over what he'd done. "As a Christian I had this huge desire to tell the Van Sluytman family how sorry I was for ruining their lives," he says.

Out on a temporary pass the year before his full parole in 1992 to see his wife's family in Ontario, Flett visited his victim's grave "to pay my respects."

After several failed attempts, Flett established Margot Van Sluytman's whereabouts in May 2007. On learning she was a renowned poet, Flett's wife sent what she thought was an anonymous donation to help Van Sluytman with her career.

But a curious Van Sluytman managed to uncover her benefactor's name and e-mailed her asking if she was related to Glen Flett. "He's my husband," the reply said.

Immediately, Van Sluytman asked Flett for an apology for his terrible actions almost 30 years previously. She got it the next day, and the two began corresponding regularly.

They met for the first time in July 2007 and attended a ceremony honouring her father at Mission's Westminster Abbey.

This incredible experience inspired Van Sluytman's poem The Other Inmate. "We were both in jail for many years," she says. "I've now come out from behind my bars and, I believe, so has Glen."


Regina Leader Post, Page B9 April 28, 2009

Deny, deny, deny Colin Thatcher a single dime from murder book

Murray Mandryk, The Leader-Post

Any conversation on JoAnn Wilson's murder does not begin with Colin Thatcher's forthcoming 110,000-word book, Final Appeal: Anatomy of a Frame.

It begins a few moments before 6 p.m. on Jan. 21, 1983, when Wilson stepped out of her Audi 5000, which she had just parked in the garage facing 20th Avenue behind her fashionable Regina home, a mere block from the Saskatchewan Legislative Building.

As this petite five-foot, four-inch woman emerged from her car, she was grabbed from behind with such force that the metal clasp on her jacket dug into her throat.

Immediately, she sustained a series of vicious blows to the head from a sharp metal object delivered by her much bigger assailant.

Bleeding profusely, she tried to escape, but was trapped like prey in the tight confines of the small garage containing two cars.

She fell to her knees, throwing her hands over her head to protect herself from the blows that continued to rain down. The fingers in her leather gloves were smashed and severed. Her left forearm was broken, yet she somehow found the strength to manage to crawl between the two cars. It was there her life would end -- the result of a .38 calibre bullet that was fired into her right ear and lodged in her brain. The bullet came from a heavy, semiautomatic handgun -- likely a .357 magnum Ruger, but possibly a Smith & Wesson or Colt.

Any conversation about Colin Thatcher's innocence ended in a Saskatoon courtroom at 10:53 a.m. on Nov. 6, 1984, when the foreman of the seven-man, five-woman jury announced the word "Guilty" on a count of first-degree murder. It came after four days of jury deliberation and a three-week trial highlighted by a secretly recorded conversation between Thatcher and key witness Gary Anderson. The two talked about getting the blood out of the car, about how Thatcher's alibi witnesses would never crack, how the police had nothing and how Anderson should, as Thatcher famously advised, "deny, deny, deny." These comments have never been explained. Appeals to higher courts were of no avail.

Thatcher spent 22 year behind bars before being paroled to his Moose Jaw ranch in 2006, after promising the National Parole Board that he only wanted to live a quiet life out of the public eye.

Now 71 years old and a free man, Colin Thatcher appears to have abandoned his desire for a quiet life out of the public eye. That he has the right to protest his innocence is a given (although one wonders why Justice Minister Don Morgan would be so quick to pick up the free-speech cudgel less than a month after doing his utmost to suppress a CBC interview with Curtis Dagenais.) That Thatcher felt the need to present his cockamamie theories in book form is also his business. Maybe he is simply doing this to restore his standing in the community, his standing with family and friends, or to appease an ego that might not have been humbled by decades behind bars. Who knows? But trying to stop its publication would be about as futile as trying to re-educate the idiots out there who already buy into Thatcher's hogwash that he's been "framed." However, there is one thing the Saskatchewan government can and should do. It can honour the memory of JoAnn Wilson and all similar victims, past and future, by ensuring Colin Thatcher does not earn one dime from this book.

In no small irony, Morgan has declared this week of April 26 to May 2 as "Victims of Crime Awareness Week." Wouldn't preventing criminals like Thatcher from profiting from crimes be a better way to create awareness? What's next for Thatcher? Speaking tours? Other provinces have similar laws. We have some of the best legislators in the country and the NDP Opposition has made it clear it won't stand in the way of a bill being passed this spring.

Surely, we can still do something for JoAnn Wilson.


Red Deer Advocate, Page: A2 April 27, 2009

Blackfalds residents eager to address crime threat in their community

Susan Zielinski, Red Deer Advocate

Blackfalds continues to band together to fight crime. Mayor Melodie Stol said the shooting on April 2 that frightened Westbrooke Road residents has encouraged many people to step forward to help make the community safer.

"In just three weeks, we've pulled together a Neighbourhood Watch. We've got a society, an executive, and already 25 block captains have been assigned. That's in three weeks," Stol said on Sunday at a community fair to mark National Victims of Crime Awareness Week.

"We've taken a negative like that and the whole community has embraced it and turned it into a positive."

No one was injured in the shooting in which someone fired at least two gunshots into an unoccupied vehicle outside the house.

At least one more round hit a neighbour's house, causing more than $1,000 in damage.

Stol said Sunday's fair was a way to educate people about crime and help prevent neighbourhood problems before they get out of hand.

"Crime is not a simple solution. Crime is so multi-level it needs multi-level solutions and events like this and the services that it's highlighting are the solutions."

Steve Marissink, director of victims programs with Alberta Solicitor General and Public Security, said the fair was also an opportunity to recognize the victims of crime that don't make it into the headlines.

Since 2003, the province has increased funding for victim service units from $2 million to $9.5 million in 2009, as well as promote the development of the program, he said.

"There is now a victim services program associated with every police service and detachment in this province. Victims now have access no matter where they are," Marissink said.

When serious incidents like the Blackfalds shooting happen, it has a tendency to create fear. But there is assistance and support available from the many hardworking victim service volunteers, Marissink said.

Gloria Derksen, victim services co-ordinator with Red Deer Rural RCMP, said her unit has received a few calls in recent weeks from people who thinking about becoming volunteers.

Currently, the unit has seven volunteers, but there's enough work for 12 or 14.

"We're always looking for more volunteers."


The Kingston Whig-Standard, Page A1 April 27, 2009

Memorial recalls six tragic murders

Rob Tripp

It is a memorial event that no one wants to repeat.

A cairn near the main entrance of the Division Street police building will be dedicated today with a plaque attached that's engraved with the names of six Kingston women who have been murdered by partners since 1997.

"That's the tragic and unfortunate part, there are spots for additional names," said Const. Lisa Damczyk, the department's domestic violence coordinator.

"We hope we never have to add any names to it," said Lisa Fox, a counsellor at Interval House, Kingston's shelter for women.

It is likely that more Kingston women will die, statistics show.

An average of 28 women and children are killed in Ontario each year at the hands of a violent partner. The rate of killings has not declined in recent years and men are perpetrators in 94% of domestic killings.

Each year, more than 50,000 women are admitted to shelters nationally. In the majority of cases because they are fleeing extreme domestic violence.

It's estimated more than 650 Canadians -- men and women -- are violently assaulted by partners every day.

Roughly one in five homicides in Canada is a domestic killing.

In the five years from 2002 to 2006, 121 women were murdered by a partner in Ontario, according to the Domestic Violence Death Review Committee, which reports to the Office of the Chief Coroner.

Interval House has 25 beds but has sheltered 30 women, on average, in the past six months, executive director Joanne Young said.

"We will put them on a mattress on the floor if we have to," Young said.

The strain of the economic recession that has put tens of thousands of Canadians out of work is beginning to tear at Kingston families, leading to more violence.

"Here in Kingston, anecdotally, we believe it's having an effect," said Young.

In other communities, such as Oshawa, where widespread auto sector layoffs have left families struggling, tangible connections have been drawn between the economic misery and rising domestic violence, Young said.

Damczyk said Kingston's memorial is, as far as she can tell, the first of its kind in Canada.

"It very much is a societal problem," Damczyk said. "It affects everyone."

She recounted a recent call from a Kingston employer who was concerned about an employee who regularly appeared at work with black eyes. The woman offered feeble explanations.

Damczyk explained community options.

A woman can visit the hospital emergency department, where a specially trained nurse will assess the situation and offer the victim the option of contacting police.

Once police officers are involved, they must lay charges if they have reasonable grounds to believe a crime has happened.

Damczyk said a program that involves women in the bail and court process, and other efforts to support victims, have made prosecutions easier.

"We have a very low recantation rate," she said. "We're almost at zero."

She's also involved in outreach efforts designed to ensure that people in the community who may be well positioned to detect and intervene in domestic violence know what to look for and what to do.

For two years now, Damczyk has spoken to students in law and medicine at Queen's.

"The goal is not to rip these families apart," she said. "The goal is to get (them) help."

Fox said the memorial was conceived by members of an anti-violence co-ordinating committee serving the city and Frontenac County.

"We just thought it would be nice for the Kingston community to have some sort of spot ... dedicated to the victims," she said.

The list of names is not inclusive and dates only to 1997.

The cairn may be used in future as a focal point for events.

"It is symbolic in lots of ways," Fox said.

There is an inscription on the bottom of the plaque, below the names of the victims: "To break the cycle of violence, we must break the cycle of silence."

The dedication ceremony begins at 11 a. m and is open to everyone.

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Memorialized

The names of six women who were killed by partners in Kingston appear on a domestic violence memorial at the Kingston Police station at 705 Division St. It will be dedicated in a ceremony at 11 a. m. today.

Danielle Duchesneau: The 26- year-old woman was beaten to death in an alley off Princess Street in 1997. Her boyfriend, Jeffrey Auclair, pleaded guilty to manslaughter and was sentenced to five years in prison.

Jutta Weber: The 48-year-old woman was suffocated and then dismembered by her estranged boyfriend, James Nelson Wall, in 1997. He was convicted of first-degree murder and sentenced to life in prison with no chance of parole for 25 years.

Jeanine Perry: In 2001, the 20-yearold Amherstview woman was shot to death in the parking lot of the Cataraqui Town Centre by her estranged boyfriend, Michael Shawn Martin, who then killed himself.

Patty Ann Killingbeck: The 29- year-old Kingston woman was murdered by her husband, Ian Esford, in 2001. He pleaded guilty to second- degree murder and was sentenced to life in prison with no chance of parole for 10 years.

Maureen Nicholson: Two days before Christmas 2003, Kingston Police officer Ian Nicholson shot his 39-year-old wife to death with his police handgun, then committed suicide by turning the gun on himself.

Lindsey May Dibert: The 23-yearold was stabbed to death by her boyfriend, Steven Steacy, in 2005. He pleaded guilty to second-degree murder and was sentenced to life in prison with no chance of parole for 10 years.


The Northern Light (Bathurst, New Brunswick) April 29, 2009

A national awareness campaign this week is making it known that victims of crime are not on their own.

James Mallory

James Mallory/Northern Light Photo

Lisa Godin (left) and Andrea Losier Doucet have been busy in preparation for National Victim Services Awareness Week, which is April 26 to May 2. The two are coodinating activities this week to make people aware of services available for victims of crime. One event includes an information booth at the Place Bathurst Mall from Wednesday to Saturday, 11 a.m. to 4 p.m.

April 26 to May 2 is National Victims of Crime Awareness Week. In Bathurst, Victim Services, in collaboration with Nepisiguit Family Services Inc. will have information booths set up at the Place Bathurst Mall from Wednesday through Saturday.

"The focus on this week is to make awareness of the public, the population, that there are victims of crime and to involve all the partners in the community to sensitize the population that there are services for victims of crime," said Lisa Godin, Victim Services coordinator for the Chaleur region.

Victim Services is located inside the Bathurst Courthouse on St. Patrick Street. Mrs. Godin said Victim Services, which is under the auspices of the provincial Department of Public Safety, assists those who have been a victim of crime.

"I (assist) a lot of sexual abuse victims...violent crimes such as assault, robbery, break and enter and theft, fraud, harassment, threats. I've also dealt with murder cases and the survivors, the families," she said in an interview.

She said the victims are given services from counseling to preparing for court proceedings.

"We offer different services to help them out. We do offer counseling services, support services in court, court preparation if they have to testify in court. We do the full court prep for adults and kids as well."

Continued Mrs. Godin: "We do have the victim impact statement program. Whenever an accused is found guilty in court or pleads guilty, all victims of crime can do a victim impact statement. It gives them a chance to describe in their own words the impact of the crime on their life."

She hopes this awareness program will shed some light on the situation so more victims come forward.

"They are not alone. There are services," she said.

Mrs. Godin said she will be making a presentation on her services today, Tuesday, at 2 p.m. at the Pabineau First Nation band office. The information booths at the mall will be open from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. Wednesday through Saturday.


New Brunswick Telegraph-Journal, Page C4 April 30, 2009

Help for the victims of crime

Public safety Service provides counselling, support for those whose lives have been shattered

Jeff Ducharme, Telegraph-Journal

Through counselling and support, the employees at Victim Services try to pick up the pieces of lives shattered by crime.

National Victims of Crime Awareness Week recognizes the contribution of Victim Services co-ordinators to the justice system and highlights the services they offer. The federal government is hosting a symposium in Ottawa this week to mark the event and help the service evolve further.

Dianne Fox and Theresa Higgins are the Public Safety Victim Services co-ordinators in Saint John. Victims are referred by the Saint John Police Force's victim services unit, Crown prosecutor's office, the court system or request the assistance themselves.

Police deal with the immediate issues and the provincial group deals with the longer-term counselling and support issues.

Fox and Higgins have 80 to 100 cases ongoing at any one time.

Before a person is sentenced, the victims have the option of writing a victim impact statement that the judge takes into account during sentencing.

Higgins said judges are excellent in their support of Victim Services, but what effect it has had on sentencing over the last quarter decade is not the issue.

"It's more about empowering victims and being heard," Higgins said.

Victim Services helps clients prepare the statement and follow certain guidelines. The statement can't be about the person who committed the crime or suggest sentencing.

"It's all about the victim, how the crime affected the victim - physically, emotionally and financially," Fox said.

The victim can also choose to read their victim impact statement in court.

"We help them through that," Fox said.

Victim Services co-ordinators often accompany the victims to court to provide support and help them navigate through the often confusing and overwhelming legal system.

"It's a big impact because the judge actually finds out how the victim is feeling, how the victim is impacted financially, emotionally and physically and the impacts that the crime has had on this person," Fox said.

In 2008, Victim Services celebrated its 25th anniversary in New Brunswick. It's come a long way since its humble beginnings as a volunteer-run service.

Depending on the nature of the crime, free counselling is offered to help the victims move on with their lives. Before the trial begins, the victim can be directed to trauma counselling and after the trial short-term counselling is made available.

But what services are offered, Fox said, depends on the person.

"Some people don't require counselling or don't think they require counselling," Fox said.

The counselling service, which is provided by a wide range of professionals, is paid for by the province.

While the work is rewarding, the feedback Victims Services gets from victims makes it even more so.

"It's nice to know they felt we've helped them," Higgins said.


Edmonton Journal, Page B1 April 30, 2009

Art of teenage victims exposes emotions 'beneath the surface'

Multimedia exhibit shines light on how young people cope

Tim Cooper, The Edmonton Journal

Sylvia Hoang understands how artistic expression helped her deal with the difficult aspects of being a teenager.

In a self-portrait created when she was 18, she looks composed, even while perched atop ominous dark rocks. "The chalk pastel drawing was an assignment that asked me to substitute my face into another drawing that fits me," she said.

"I felt it was appropriate at the time, because on the outside it looks like I'm put together, but really there's more beneath the surface."

The 22-year-old, who recently graduated with a biology degree from the University of Alberta, will have that drawing and two sculptures on display at the What's It Like To Be A Victim multimedia art show at Kids in the Hall Bistro in City Hall tonight.

Art from teens aged 13 to 17 will be presented along with Hoang's work to demonstrate how they understand and experience victimization, and how they cope.

"Being a teenager is hard, and it's getting much harder," said event curator BrennaKnapman.

"I'm stunned by some of the things I hear about now, like kids using their cellphones to record others changing in locker rooms and posting them on YouTube."

She thinks art is important for grappling with the difficulties of evolving identity, and connecting young people with the artistic means to do so is her passion.

"The sooner they gain artistic tools to examine themselves, the better off they'll be," she said.

Three judges will look at each of the submissions, which include more traditional art forms, as well as rap, spoken-word performance and short film.

The top three entries will receive cash awards, with $300 going to first place.

The exhibit is being held in connection with National Victims of Crime Awareness Week, running from April 26 to May 2. It was organized by the Edmonton Restorative Justice Network.

"We wanted to put this on to highlight that young people can be victims of violence and crime as much as anyone else," said ERJN spokesperson Harvey Voogd.

"Often we hear about them as young offenders and tend to forget about the other side."

This will be the second event of the week organized by ERJN.

On Tuesday the group brought Myrna Roy and Bruce Stanley to speak at Grant MacEwan College about their experiences of healing after tragedy struck their families.

Roy told an audience of 30 people about the death of her brother, and Stanley spoke about his father's death in 2002, when two teens dropped a boulder onto his windshield from a Whitemud overpass.

Both described how face-to-face meetings with the offenders helped them heal.

"My family, along with the one person charged with manslaughter and his family, met in a conference that lasted seven long hours," Stanley said. "Each person had the chance to tell how the (killing) of dad affected them, and the accused also had a chance to explain his actions."

This is something Voogd believes is critical to the restorative process.

"It gives the offender an opportunity to have a really deep personal understanding of the impact and harm on the victim," he said.

According to Voogd, restorative practices are not yet widely embraced in Edmonton, but that will likely change. "It's a small but growing process," he said. "Increasingly various programs throughout the city are getting referrals from the Crown prosecutor's office through schools and police services."

Tonight's exhibit runs from 5 p.m. to 7 p.m. and admission is free.


CBC-Radio Saskatchewan. April 29, 2009 17:35 HRS.

INTERVIEW: VICTIM OF VIOLENT CRIME - CONFERENCE BEING HELD ON FRIDAY FOR] CRIME AWARENESS WEEK

MICHELLE HIGLI: Host

A violent crime can happen to anyone as Lois Isnana knows too well. She's one of the organizers of a special conference in Regina on Friday to recognize national victims of Crime Awareness Week. Lois works at the Qu'Appelle Haven Safe Shelter and violent crime has touched her own life closely. Lois joins me now on the line. Lois can you tell us how violent crime has touched your life?

LOIS ISNANA (QU'APPELLE HAVEN SAFE SHELTER)

In June of 06 I lost my husband to crime. He was killed here in our home community. Since that time we have been dealing with the loss of my husband and the father of my children. It has been a really trying time throughout the almost three years now since he's been gone.

MICHELLE HIGLI: Host

How were your children affected by this?

LOIS ISNANA (QU'APPELLE HAVEN SAFE SHELTER)

Like any other person that has lost a parent. They were devastated, completely and totally devastated. Also which compounded the grief was the way he was killed because the person that they weren't aware of prior to his death, they now were fully aware of who that person was and it affected them then and it affects them yet today.

MICHELLE HIGLI: Host

How has your family managed to get through this?

LOIS ISNANA (QU'APPELLE HAVEN SAFE SHELTER)

Well through lots and lots of support. We got so much outpouring of support when this happened, not only from our own family, our extended families but from our community, from my work here. There's just so many people who helped us.

And it was also a thought of even when my husband was first hurt, I knew that things had to change and we had a little bit of time. He was actually conscience before his death, he had had surgery. So we kind of talked about it and wanting positive change has really been a driving factor for our family. I know that for myself, I didn't want this to happen again and I wouldn't want this and I know it has. I really feel for other families that have been affected by crime.

MICHELLE HIGLI: Host

What kind of changes were you wanting to see?

LOIS ISNANA (QU'APPELLE HAVEN SAFE SHELTER)

First of all, like we need to, I really felt that I needed a connection with other families. So I received that. Within our province here, within our community in southern Saskatchewan and throughout Saskatchewan, but I mostly work with the families here in Saskatchewan with the missing and murdered women.

They offered a lot of support to us in the early days after the loss of my husband. Being with them helped me to express my grief. We had similar circumstances. Also I went online. I researched, I did everything that I could to help myself first and then my children secondly.

Then here where I work, it was such a wonderful atmosphere. I wouldn't have healed as much as I've come along and I'm not saying that I'm healed entirely because we still have a long ways to go yet, but the support that I received from co-workers has been tremendous as well.

MICHELLE HIGLI: Host

I do want to touch on your work life. You've been in social work for almost 20 years and you work at a safe shelter for women. How has crime affected your life at work?

LOIS ISNANA (QU'APPELLE HAVEN SAFE SHELTER)

Well you know it's almost an everyday, when we come into the doors each day, I'm a childcare counsellor, I really connect with the children. And because of my years of experience I know that crime affects us all and it doesn't matter if it's a baby or a grown adult, crime affects us all.

So when our families are affected, you feel their pain, you see their pain and you just want to reach out to them and help them the best that you can.

MICHELLE HIGLI: Host

Tell me about the conference, what's going to be happening there?

LOIS ISNANA (QU'APPELLE HAVEN SAFE SHELTER)

Well it's a one day conference. It's National Victims of Crime Awareness Week. Our conference name is Creating Strength and Making Change Through Supporting Connecting Evolving. I know that's a long title, but supporting, connecting, evolving is the federal theme for this year's week. But we wanted to add more to it, creating strength and making change.

That's so important for what I have found is that getting that strength and how we do that is by connecting with other people, with people that have been through the process before and maybe know a little bit more about it than we do. We have some fabulous speakers. We have a lady who will start our day off. Her name is Deb George and she works with Family Service Regina. She'll be talking about stalking and other issues related around domestic violence.

And then we have Corporal Tim Schwartz with the RCMP. He's now stationed out of Yorkton but was formally working with the F-Division major crimes unit. He will be talking to us about the police role in investigation. Finally and our very special guest speaker is Wilma Dirkson (sp) who comes to us from Winnipeg. She will be talking to us about the 15 elements of serious crime.

MICHELLE HIGLI: Host

Lois what do you hope people will get from the conference?

LOIS ISNANA (QU'APPELLE HAVEN SAFE SHELTER)

Well we're hoping networking. We're hoping that they will be able to have more information when they leave than when they came in. I'm hoping personally that we can become more formalized.

Whether that means a support group or another conference next year, the support that we've been getting is just phenomenal. We've surpassed the number of seats that we could actually allow in and you know there's both professionals and families. So we know that he need is out there.

MICHELLE HIGLI: Host

Lois thank you for speaking with us today.


Moncton Times and Transcript, Page A6 May 1, 2009

Support crucial for victims of crime

Moncton woman says her life turned around after escaping abuse

Craig Babstock, Times & Transcript Staff

Joanne Richard is a lot of things: Single mother, college graduate, public speaker, confident woman.

But she's not a victim, despite spending nine years in an abusive marriage.

"I don't consider myself a victim; that's long left behind," says the Moncton woman. "I don't even consider myself a survivor anymore. Today I can say I'm a woman again. I've found my confidence, I believe in myself and I know I can go out there and do whatever I want."

Richard wasn't so self-assured on Sept. 24, 2006, the night her husband threatened to kill her. She didn't sleep at all that night, fearing for her life and wondering what she and her two daughters would do.

"I was afraid and that morning I got up and walked my kids to school, like I did every morning, with my dog," she says. "I was thinking in my head that I have to leave, but how do I do it? Where do I go? What do I do?"

Richard was living in Shediac at the time and she stopped at the local family crisis centre to make a plea for help. She didn't know how she would be received.

"There was an angel there for me," she says.

She was taken to the local RCMP detachment and two officers accompanied her to her home. One guarded her husband while the other helped her pack some necessary items.

"I had five minutes to take whatever I need and put it in garbage bags," she said.

Richard and her girls were directed to Crossroads for Women, an organization that provides safe shelter for battered women.

She stayed there a month and then was moved into housing. She had never heard of Crossroads, but says the organization played an important role in her getting back on her feet.

She eventually enrolled in CompuCollege's human resources and payroll program and she completes her studies today. She's very proud of what she's accomplished with the help of a number of community groups, and the fact she escaped a violent life.

Richard says her husband was convicted of assault, but never went to jail, which she disagrees with. She calls probation and anger management courses a slap on the wrist.

Yesterday, Richard spoke to almost 150 people at a victims of crime symposium, consisting of many government and community organization workers and volunteers who help people like her. She says she wanted them to know the work they do makes a difference in people's lives.

"I wouldn't be here today if it wasn't for them," she says.

She also wants women in abusive relationships to know they need to come forward and people will help them. They should not suffer in silence.

"It's important they know there is help out there," she says.

Yesterday's symposium was an all-day event held at the Ramada Plaza Crystal Palace and Convention Centre in Dieppe. It was sponsored by the Department of Justice and Correctional Service of Canada, in partnership with the Coalition Against Abuse in Relationships. The event, designed to raise awareness about victims and the programs and services in place to help them and their families, was scheduled this week because it's National Victims of Crime Awareness Week.

Scheduled speakers included GinettePetitpas-Taylor, of CodiacRCMP's Victim Services Unit, Gabrielle Maillet, with the Department of Public Safety's Victim Services office in Moncton, Ken Smith, a retired police officer who now works in restorative justice, and David Molzahn, national director of victim services for Correctional Service Canada.

Paulette Levesque, co-chairwoman of the Coalition Against Abuse in Relationships in the Moncton area, says the event is a good way to bring together front line workers from government and other organizations.

"It's a way to talk about services provided to victims of crime and it's also a way to maybe get our network a bit more stronger and to see what the gaps are and what are the services we need to focus on so our victims are really being taken care of," she says.

Levesque says one of the biggest challenges in getting help and support for victims of crime is that not all of them report the crimes to police, especially in domestic situations.

"Sometimes you need to be able to report a crime to get services and we have (many) victims that don't report crimes and this is a huge problem because they don't have access to all the services available in our community," says Levesque, a psychologist who works with crime victims.

As Richard's case illustrates, it's important for crime victims to get help and support.

"It's crucial," she says. "It's a key element to their survival, and to be able to become productive, healthy individuals."

"It's very distressing, not only for them, but their family, friends, co- workers. It touches a lot of people."

She says many victims fear speaking out because they feel ashamed and alone, but Levesque says they are not alone.

"(Being victimized) is something that is very private and we don't always talk about it, because victims feel guilt, ashamed, lonely and they always think it only happens to them, but it really doesn't, it happens to a lot of people."


The Hamilton Spectator, Page A4 May 1, 2009

New, user-friendly website for victims of hate, bullying

The Hamilton Spectator

Hamilton victims of hate or bullying have a new avenue to seek help or report what happened to them.

A new hate crimes reporting and information website -- hatecrimes.ca -- was launched here yesterday, timed for this year's National Victims of Crime Awareness Week (April 26-May 2).

The site, sponsored by the LGBTQ community Wellness Centre (The Well) and Settlement and Integration Services Organization (SISO) in partnership with the Hamilton Hate Crimes Committee, is user friendly and packed with information and links to assist a victim of crime find help or report their experience.

Organizers hope the site will make it easier for members of Hamilton's diverse communities to report a hate crime -- generally far under reported -- as well as acts of bullying, harassment and discrimination.

Hate crimes are criminal acts committed against an individual or group based on their perceived identity.

Radenka Lescesen, program co-ordinator for SISO's hate crimes prevention program, explained that the goal of the site is to help victims access services directly from trusted service providers and to collect more information about the true extent and nature of hate-motivated attacks in the community.

"It is not enough to be able to say one lives in Hamilton, she said. All people must be able to say they are Hamiltonians and part of the community as a whole."

"Hate crimes remain under reported in our city," said Deirdre Dixon, co-chair of The Well. "These acts of violence and aggression have a tremendous impact on minority communities, including the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgendered and queer community."

"Through this website we will be able to provide services to support victims who are not comfortable reporting to the police."

For more information about The Well, check out the website, thewellhamilton.ca.

To learn about SISO, visit sisohamilton.org


Calgary Herald, Page B7 May 1, 2009

Artwork gives students insight into victims' outlook on crime

Tim Cooper, Edmonton Journal

Sylvia Hoang understands how artistic expression helped her deal with the difficult aspects of being a teenager.

In a self-portrait created when she was 18, she looks composed, even while perched atop ominous dark rocks.

"The chalk pastel drawing was an assignment that asked me to substitute my face into another drawing that fits me," she said.

"I felt it was appropriate at the time, because on the outside it looks like I'm put together, but really there's more beneath the surface."

The 22-year-old, who recently graduated with a biology degree from the University of Alberta, had that drawing and two sculptures on display at the What's It Like To Be A Victim multimedia art show in Edmonton on Thursday night.

Art from teens aged 13 to 17 was presented along with Hoang's work to demonstrate how they understand and experience victimization, and how they cope.

"Being a teenager is hard, and it's getting much harder," said event curator Brenna Knapman.

"I'm stunned by some of the things I hear about now, like kids using their cellphones to record others changing in locker rooms and posting them on YouTube."

She thinks art is important for grappling with the difficulties of evolving identity, and connecting young people with the artistic means to do so is her passion.

"The sooner they gain artistic tools to examine themselves, the better off they'll be," she said.

The exhibit was held in connection with National Victims of Crime Awareness Week, running from April 26 to May 2. It was organized by the Edmonton Restorative Justice Network.

"We wanted to put this on to highlight that young people can be victims of violence and crime as much as anyone else," said the network's spokesman Harvey Voogd.

"Often we hear about them as young offenders and tend to forget about the other side."


Regina Leader Post, Page A2 May 2, 2009

Break terror bond: Derksen

Anne Kyle, The Leader-Post

Family survivors of homicide and victims of violence have a choice -- be held hostage by what happened or break the terror-trauma bond with the offender, take control and move on, says Wilma Derksen.

On Friday Derksen spoke to a roomful of survivors of violence and victim services workers about the trauma, the depth of despair and anguish and her uncontrollable rage at having a family member killed in an act of violence. She also shared her personal journey as part of the healing process.

The emotions are still raw for the Winnipeg woman, whose 13-year-old daughter Candace was abducted Nov. 30, 1984, as she walked home from school and was murdered.

Her bound and frozen body was found nearly seven weeks later in an abandoned shed near her Winnipeg home.

Derksen said her family chose not to let their daughter's murder control and destroy their lives. Part of the healing and recovery process, she said, is identifying and dealing with your fear, anger, mistrust and dependencies and taking control of your life.

"As survivors we can't pin our hopes on anything; it really is just about us. It is really about me and how I am going to face the day and it isn't dependent on (the offender), otherwise that person holds us hostage," she said.

"It is really about living in the moment and saying it's about my healing and my happiness and it doesn't depend on anything."

In May 2007 Mark Edward Grant was arrested and charged with Candace's first-degree murder. His preliminary hearing is scheduled for the end of August.

"I know already that just having had someone charged makes a big difference to my family," Derksen said.

While attending the preliminary hearing will be difficult, she explained it is important for her family to learn a few facts about what happened -- even if those facts are not confirmed -- as part of the closure process.

"That is the quest (to learn the facts). I'm just assuming that will carry me through the process. I need to know and then I hope I will be able to struggle through the pain and the emotion of (reliving her loss and being exposed to Candace's vulnerability)," she said.

The conference was sponsored by the Qu'Appelle Haven Safe Shelter -- a 24-hour emergency women's shelter for victims of violence -- in recognition of National Victims of Crime Awareness Week.


24 Heures/PresseCanadienne May 2, 2009

Manif pour les victimes d'agression sexuelle

PresseCanadienne

Photo: collaboration spéciale

Dans le cadre des activités soulignant la Semaine nationale de sensibilisation aux victimes d'actes criminels, une manifestation regroupant de personnes abusées sexuellement pendant leur enfance se tient samedi après-midi à Montréal.

La manifestation est notamment organisée par le Criphase, le Centre de Ressources et d'Intervention pour Hommes Abusés Sexuellement dans leur Enfance.

Au Québec, au Canada et dans le monde, les agressions sexuelles sont considérées comme les crimes contre la personne les plus répandus. Les femmes et les filles en sont encore les premières victimes.

Mais l'ampleur des agressions chez les garçons et les adolescents commence à peine à poindre. On estime aujourd'hui qu'au Québec, une fille sur quatre et un garçon sur six aura été victime d'agressions sexuelles avant l'âge de 18 ans.

Le Criphase souligne que la majorité des victimes ne portent pas plainte et que beaucoup ne parleront même jamais de leur agression. Elles demeurent dans le silence avec leur souffrance, par honte, par crainte d'être jugées, blâmées, questionnées et stigmatisées.

La Marche de mobilisation et de soutien aux victimes d'agressions sexuelles se veut porteuse d'espoir pour les victimes et pour leurs proches. La Marche se veut aussi un geste de solidarité envers les victimes silencieuses.


Le Journal Progres Villeray - Online May 2, 2009

Mobilisation pour les victimes d'agression sexuelle

Le CRIPHASE (le Centre de ressources et d'intervention pour hommes abusés sexuellement dans leur enfance) revient avec la deuxième édition de la marche de mobilisation pour les victimes d'agression sexuelle, activité organisée dans le cadre de la Semaine nationale de sensibilisation aux victimes d'actes criminels.

L'an dernier, près de 200 personnes ont pris part à la première marche! L'édition de cette année aura lieu le samedi 2 mai à 13 h. Les marcheurs prendront le départ au parc Lalancette, coin des rues Hochelaga et Nicolet (métro Joliette). Le tracé suivra la rue Nicolet jusqu'à Ontario pour ensuite se diriger vers l'Est, jusqu'au premier arrêt du parc Valois (sur Ontario).

L'arrivée aura lieu au même endroit que l'année passée, c'est-à-dire au CAP St-Barnabé (1475 Bennet).Tous sont conviés à joindre les rangs!

Demande de bénévoles

Le succès d'un tel événement repose sur les participants mais aussi sur les bénévoles. Les tâches à accomplir sont simples: gonfler des ballons, porter la banderole, placer la salle d'arrivée, préparer du café et autres... (L.P.)


Journal Hochelaga Maisonneuve - Online May 2, 2009

Mobilisation pour les victimes d'agression sexuelle

Le CRIPHASE organise une marche de mobilisation pour les victimes d'agression sexuelle, activité organisée dans le cadre de la Semaine nationale de sensibilisation aux victimes d'actes criminels, le samedi 2 mai, à 13 h.

Les marcheurs prendront le départ au parc Lalancette, coin des rues Hochelaga et Nicolet (métro Joliette). Le tracé suivra la rue Nicolet jusqu'à Ontario pour ensuite se diriger vers l'Est, jusqu'au premier arrêt du parc Valois (sur Ontario).

L'arrivée aura lieu au même endroit que l'année passée, c'est-à-dire au CAP St-Barnabé (1475 Bennet).


Réseau Canoe – online May 2, 2009

Agression sexuelle - Les tabous persistent

(Agence QMI) Reine Côté

Bien des victimes d'agressions sexuelles vivent encore dans le mutisme. Près de 150 personnes sont descendues dans la rue, aujourd'hui, pour convaincre les hommes et les femmes abusés de dévoiler le lourd secret qui les empêche de mener une vie normale.

Dans le cadre de la Semaine nationale des victimes d'actes criminels, les organismes CRIPHASE, Trève pour elles et le Centre de services de justice réparatrice, avaient convié les gens à leur deuxième marche annuelle ayant pour but de soutenir les victimes.

«  On veut que les gens sachent qu'il existe des ressources. Il y a encore trop de tabous », affirme le porte-parole de l'événement, Jean Tardif.

Selon ce dernier, l'attitude de la famille constitue le principal obstacle à la dénonciation.

«  La famille qui refuse de croire l'histoire de l'enfant agressé, c'est une deuxième agression. C'est un rejet. »

Même adulte, la victime qui décide de partager son expérience fera souvent face à la désapprobation des membres de sa famille. Elle sera vue comme celle qui vient détruire la cellule. L'entourage ne veut pas que cela soit connu de tous.

Si la dénonciation publique de Nathalie Simard a encouragé plusieurs personnes à dénoncer leur abuseur, elle en a aussi payé le prix, estime Jean Tardif. « Sa famille l'a rejetée. Personne ne veut de ça dans sa cour. »

Même si les médias traitent du phénomène depuis plusieurs années, il reste beaucoup de travail à faire auprès des victimes, constate M. Tardif. À commencer par leur enlever le sentiment de honte qui entachera toute leur vie.


La Press Canadienne May 2, 2009

Marche de soutien aux victimes d'agressions sexuelles à Montréal samedi

La Presse Canadienne

MONTREAL - Dans le cadre des activités soulignant la Semaine nationale de sensibilisation aux victimes d'actes criminels, une manifestation regroupant de personnes abusées sexuellement pendant leur enfance se tient samedi après-midi à Montréal.

La manifestation est notamment organisée par le Criphase, le Centre de Ressources et d'Intervention pour Hommes Abusés Sexuellement dans leur Enfance.

Au Québec, au Canada et dans le monde, les agressions sexuelles sont considérées comme les crimes contre la personne les plus répandus. Les femmes et les filles en sont encore les premières victimes.

Mais l'ampleur des agressions chez les garçons et les adolescents commence à peine à poindre. On estime aujourd'hui qu'au Québec, une fille sur quatre et un garçon sur six aura été victime d'agressions sexuelles avant l'âge de 18 ans.

Le Criphase souligne que la majorité des victimes ne portent pas plainte et que beaucoup ne parleront même jamais de leur agression. Elles demeurent dans le silence avec leur souffrance, par honte, par crainte d'être jugées, blâmées, questionnées et stigmatisées.

La Marche de mobilisation et de soutien aux victimes d'agressions sexuelles se veut porteuse d'espoir pour les victimes et pour leurs proches. La Marche se veut aussi un geste de solidarité envers les victimes silencieuses.


Maclean's Magazine May 4, 2009

I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry: A murderer, his victim's daughter and an unlikely bond

Ken MacQueen

The bones of this story can be told in two deceptively simple sentences written by Margot Van Sluytman, a poet who lives in Calgary with her two daughters and the memories of a father stolen from her on an Easter Monday, 31 years ago. She wrote: "The man, Glen Flett, who murdered my Dad, wrote to me. And I chose to respond."

The man, Glen Flett, who murdered Ted Van Sluytman at a Hudson's Bay store in Eglinton Square mall in Scarborough, Ont., is sitting across the table of a Greek restaurant in Mission, B.C., where he lives. He is now 58 years old, more than one-third of those spent in Canadian prisons. The evidence is written in deep creases cross-hatching his face. The truth is, though, Flett looks better than he has in years. He seems younger, healthier, and lighter in spirit. He is talking about Margot Van Sluytman, and the unlikely kinship that they have developed over the past two years via a steady email correspondence and a few powerful face-to-face meetings. It's strange, says Flett: "Victims and offenders have a huge amount in common."

What Flett and Van Sluytman share is the memory of Ted Van Sluytman, who worked in the menswear department at the Bay. He was a fourth-generation Guyanese of Dutch and Portuguese descent who moved his family to Canada in 1969. He thought it a safe haven. Margot was his doting 16-year-old daughter, one of four children. Flett's memories of him consist of a frantic, violent 10 or 20 seconds on the afternoon of April 27, 1978. Time enough for a tussle as Van Sluytman, 40, stepped into his path as Flett and an accomplice, Dennis Dubinsky, fled after robbing an armoured car guard of the store's cash deposit. Time enough for Dubinsky to shoot Van Sluytman in the back as Flett shot him point blank in the left front shoulder. Time enough to hear him cry out and fall unconscious to the floor. "I was 27 but I probably looked like I was 24," Flett says. "I'll never forget when he grabbed hold of me, he said, 'Give it up, son. It's not worth it.' "

"If your husband might want to say sorry, just even in a short email to me, I would appreciate that."
Sincerely, Margot Van Sluytman

It was Sherry Edmunds-Flett, Glen's wife, who sent "The Email," as Margot calls it, the one that set her and Glen on a path to reconciliation. It was a bit of an accident, probably, but Sherry is a strong woman with a way of cutting through the crap to get things done. She was an adult education teacher who married Glen while he was still in prison. That was some 22 years ago. He had turned his life around, and had embraced Christianity. In 1992, the year Glen was paroled, they founded an organization called LINC (Long-term Inmates Now in the Community). It is a self help charity run by ex-inmates with the aim of reintegrating former prisoners back into society. Sherry is LINC's executive director and Glen works directly with inmates, escorting them from prison into the community, helping them access services and find housing. The job is all-consuming, and in 2005 he suffered what amounted to a breakdown. He was pulled over by police. He was intoxicated and carrying a loaded handgun. In sentencing, Justice Ronald Caryer called him a "ticking time bomb." Remarkably he sentenced him to a minimal year in jail. The judge noted his stellar work with LINC, and urged Flett to let go of the mistakes of his past, adding: "He is riddled, addled and saddled with guilt, some of which he should be, some of which he is carrying when he shouldn't." The ghosts of the past, Sherry knew, had to be confronted.

Sherry learned from a friend about Margot's work as poet, publisher and writing coach with a special emphasis on writing as a form of healing and therapy. Glen had tried in the past to contact the Van Sluytmans only to be told by intermediaries that the family wanted no dealings with him. Nonetheless, Sherry used PayPal to send what she thought would be an anonymous $100 online donation to Margot's Palabras Press. Her name, however, remained on the emailed donation, and 30 anguished minutes later, Margot wrote back. She asked if Sherry was the wife of the man who killed her father. "You've put your foot in it now," Flett told his wife. "You have to answer that." She wrote back: "I am married to Glen Flett. I am sorry if I have offended or hurt you in any way."

The correspondence began, tentatively, first with Sherry acting as an intermediary. Finally, Glen wrote directly: "Dear Ms. Van Sluytman. I read your words and truthfully I am without words. For so long I have prayed for this moment. Every day I pray that somehow you and your family have been able to move on from the despicable thing I did. Everyday I say I am sorry but it never seems enough. I don't expect you to ever forgive me but I so hope that your wounds are healing... I would like you to know that I have put my whole heart into being a different man than I was."

Van Sluytman believes in words, but what to make of these? She teaches workshops on the healing power of writing. She received an award from the National Association of Poetry Therapy. She has always been a writer and in the years since her father's murder words offered what little solace she could find. She left home, and struggled through high school. She entered and quit the University of Toronto. There was a half-hearted attempt to overdose on pills. She enrolled in college. Married. Drifted through a variety of jobs. Divorced. Moved with her children to Venezuela. Then to Guyana, and finally back to Canada. "And could not," she would later write, "no matter how many books and poems I wrote, stop carrying the pain of Dad's death."

Her jumbled thoughts have became her latest book, Sawbonna: Dialogue of Hope. Sawbonna, or Sawubona as it is often spelled, is a Zulu form of hello, meaning "I see you." It became a greeting she and Flett used, one that well describes the unflinching torrent of emails that weave through the book.

Van Sluytman, 47, is an intriguing mix. Her writing is sensitive and spiritual, in a New Age sort of way. Yet, on the phone from Calgary, she is blunt and frank, with a good command of earthy Anglo-Saxon. "I see this man," she says, referencing the title of her book. "He knows he f---ed with my life royally. He knows that, and it matters to him. And I am grateful for that." And so the emails continued, and she allowed herself to trust.

Still, she had doubts. Her family had no part in this. Was she betraying them, and her father? She decided she had lived too long with grief. She needed this connection. "I wanted my life back," she says. They decided it was time to meet.

"Hello. I am Glen's kid, Victoria. How are U. Its sad that your Dad got killed by my Dad. But my Dad knows that he did bad. But he is way way better now he is a great guy. And I am happy that U know that my Dad is sorry.
Look forward to seeing U.
Love, Victoria [then, age 10]"

For their first meeting, July 14, 2007, the Fletts chose Westminster Abbey, a Benedictine monastery on a rise above the Fraser River in Mission. Sherry picked Margot up at the airport and delivered her to Glen. Van Sluytman remembers it this way: "I said to him, you must be John Glendon Flett. And he said, Yes. And I said, I am Margot Van Sluytman. And we looked at each other and we started to cry. And we hugged. And we cried for awhile and he said: 'I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.' And I said, I know. I believe you."

There have been a few meetings since. And first by happenstance and then by design, she began conducting writing workshops in jails and remand centres. Her work has come to parallel Flett's, and she has sought his advice. This week, she is back in Mission to appear with Flett at a forum marking National Victims of Crime Week.

It took almost 30 years to meet one of her father's killers, to get her questions answered, and to see they were both locked in a sentence running since April 27, 1978. She accepted his apology at the abbey because she needed the release as much as he did.

She will not precribe such reconciliatiosns for others. But for her, she says, it is a small miracle. She and Flett see Van Sluytman's last words as a gift for both of them. "I don't think he meant malice to me," says Flett. "He didn't try to hit me or beat me. He just said, 'Give it up, son.' " To Margot they are an affirmation of her father's character. "He was a really gentle guy. But I've got to tell you," she says, "I'm not sure those are the words I would have said."


National Post, A1 May 9, 2009

How a Calgary poet found the words to forgive the man who murdered her father

They met 29 years after the fatal shooting. He said he was sorry. She believed him.

Adrian Humphreys, National Post

Every story of redemption must begin with a fall and John Glendon Flett's titanic tumble came from the muzzle of his gun. It started with a robbery in 1978. One crook waited in a stolen Cadillac outside a Bay store in east Toronto while Flett and another partner watched a Brinks guard collect $46,000 from the office.

"We took him out on the second floor, in the furniture department," said Flett, now 58, in an interview this week.

His partner cracked the guard on the head with a hammer, snatched the money bag and tossed it to Flett. In the confusion, Flett ran down the up escalator, pushing shoppers aside.

He headed through men's wear, where Theodore Van Sluytman was working despite having the day off. Mr. Van Sluytman likely did not understand Flett's desperation. He would have heard shouts of "Stop him!" and likely thought Flett was shoplifting.

"I didn't see him as I ran. He came out from behind a rack of clothes and grabbed me," said Flett.

There was no tackle or shouts, just Mr. Van Sluytman clutching the front of Flett's coat with a fatherly exhortation: "Give it up, son. It's not worth it."

As the men struggled, Flett's partner fired.

"I heard the shot," said Flett. "Then I shot too. He was hit once in the back by my partner, once in the front by me."

Mr. Van Sluytman, 39, let go, slid to the floor and died.

The day before, Mr. Van Sluytman led his children on an Easter egg hunt. His youngest, Jeremy, was just five. The oldest, Loretta, 18. In between were Margot, 16, and Karen, 10.

The family ran an in-home day-care and their house was bustling with little ones when two officers came with the news.

"From that second, life was never the same," said Margot Van Sluytman. "It caused a nightmare for my whole family."

As she spoke from her Calgary home, a picture of her father is beside her. With her memory of him frozen at the age of 16, the 47-year-old often still calls him Daddy.

"I was in long-term grief and trauma. Since my dad's death I have felt completely inadequate. When Daddy was killed, everything stopped."

As a teen she tried suicide, a cut wrist and pills. As an adult -- through marriage, two children, divorce -- the murder preyed on her. She found solace in writing. She won awards for her poetry and established a small book press devoted to art and healing.

Still, the murder clung to her.

"Why couldn't I get over this? I was tired of being weighed down."

"I felt like I was carry Dad's corpse around."

Little did she know the key to her serenity lay with the man who caused that grief and that the killer's redemption lay within her own heart.

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A gunpoint heist was not new for Flett.

"I started young. I was involved in crime at the age of 10, younger probably. I spent my life in crime," Flett said.

He met his accomplices in prison and after escaping jail hooked up with them again in Toronto. They were robbing theatres, conning their way into a manager's office and sticking a gun in his face.

But the gang eyed larger scores and researched armoured truck routes. "We thought this would be an easy one to start with," Flett said of the Bay heist.

With the murder, however, outrage spilled from newspapers. A huge reward was offered. Police threw themselves into the case. Eventually the trio was caught.

Flett and the driver were convicted of murder after what was the nation's longest jury trial. Both received life sentences. The other shooter testified against them and received 15 years.

"Prison was pretty bad. I got involved in the criminal element, drugs, violence," Flett said. A fellow convict urged him to come to church. He laughed. Then in 1982 he thought it might be good to talk to someone other than criminals and so he went.

"I got convinced that maybe God was the answer ... I started trying to be part of the solution rather than the problem. It was hugely rewarding to do good things."

And good things happened to him. His sentence was reduced and a woman volunteering at the prison took a shine to him. After a lengthy courtship, Flett married Sherry Edmunds behind bars with 110 inmates and staff as guests.

He was, he said, a changed man.

When he was granted a leave in 1990, he came to pay respects at Mr. Van Sluytman's grave. He spoke with officers and prosecutors from the case. Everyone said not to contact the family to apologize.

In 1992, Flett and his wife started a parolee support group in their hometown of Mission, B. C., called Long-term Inmates Now in the Community.

Even so, Flett had his own relapse. Complicated circumstances led him to fear for his life and when his car was pulled over by police in 2005, he was intoxicated and carrying a loaded handgun, a rifle, a false police badge and drug paraphernalia. "I'm not a poster child for anything, I know that. I'm ashamed of what I did but I'm not apologizing for wanting to live. I just went about it the wrong way."

He began working with victims of violence, all the while longing to apologize to his own victims, he said.

In May, 2007, his wife found Ms. Van Sluytman's eb site. Impetuously, she sent what she thought was an anonymous donation for her publishing efforts.

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Ms. Van Sluytman was waiting for an e-mail when the electronic deposit arrived. The transaction was not anonymous, however, and "Flett" in the e-mail address startled her.

"I bawled my eyes out," Ms. Van Sluytman said. "Then I had to find out if she was married to the man who murdered my father."

A flurry of e-mails led to a written apology from Flett the next morning.

"I had so many questions. I wanted to know what he looked like at the very second that the happy, perky dad who left our house that morning was killed."

In July, 2007, Ms. Van Sluytman flew to Mission and, with intermediators present, faced him for the first time.

"I was shaking," she said. "I hugged him and we started to cry. It was a really powerful meeting."

Said Flett: "I won't lie. I wanted to run away. I was ashamed. It was humbling and difficult. But I said I was sorry and I am sorry. I'm sorry I killed her dad."

It took 31 years and several meetings for her to realize she had forgiven him.

"In my heart, I knew I had forgiven him. I'm a poet but I'm not a bleeding heart," she said. "But I feel that healing matters. Forgiveness is healthy and worthwhile but the process of healing is what is truly important."

Last week, Ms. Van Sluytman and Flett stood together on a small stage in Mission to speak out for restorative justice and the power of forgiveness, redemption and healing -- for both victims and offenders.

And then they embraced. As friends.